The Only Story Would you rather love the and suffer the or love the less and suffer the less That is I think finally the only real question First love has lifelong consequences but Paul doesn t know anything

  • Title: The Only Story
  • Author: Julian Barnes
  • ISBN: 9781787330696
  • Page: 339
  • Format: Hardcover
  • Would you rather love the , and suffer the or love the less, and suffer the less That is, I think, finally, the only real question.First love has lifelong consequences, but Paul doesn t know anything about that at nineteen At nineteen, he s proud of the fact his relationship flies in the face of social convention.As he grows older, the demands placed on Paul byWould you rather love the , and suffer the or love the less, and suffer the less That is, I think, finally, the only real question.First love has lifelong consequences, but Paul doesn t know anything about that at nineteen At nineteen, he s proud of the fact his relationship flies in the face of social convention.As he grows older, the demands placed on Paul by love become far greater than he could possibly have foreseen.Tender and wise, The Only Story is a deeply moving novel by one of fiction s greatest mappers of the human heart.

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    1. .“Would you rather love the more, and suffer the more; or love the less, and suffer the less? That is, I think, finally, the only real question. You may point out –correctly –that it isn’t a real question. Because we don’t have the choice. If we had the choice, then there would be a question. But we don’t, so there isn’t. Who can control how much they love? If you can control it, then it isn’t love. I don’t know what you call it instead, but it isn’t love.”.Thus begins the [...]

    2. This is Julian Barnes's latest offering, an author I absolutely adore. It is a profound and moving love story, and the complexities, intense suffering and heartbreak that accompanies it. It has Paul looking back on his only story, the love of his life, and his shifting perspectives as time passes. Barnes can be relied on for his well crafted beautiful prose and imagery, underscored by a musicality that beguiles and delights. The novel is split into three parts, and relates the story of 19 year o [...]

    3. 2.5 stars rounded upI declared 2017 the Julian Barnes year on account of reading and loving seven of his books.The Sense of An Ending, while it is one of his most popular books, was my least favourite novel of his. The Only Story is somewhat similar to that one, as it has an older narrator, Paul, reminiscing about his nineteen-year-old self in the 1960s and his first love and relationship with Susan, a woman twenty-nine years his senior. You read that right. Honestly, I didn't have any qualms ab [...]

    4. I’d forgotten how contemplative and funny Julian Barnes is. The mood of this novel is nostalgic and retrospective – but not saccharine. That a book so touching and tragic could be so ironic and amusing, and helplessly sad, and then end on a cold, blunt note struck me as realistic and sort of wonderful. I really admired the final pages. I don’t think it should have ended any other way. Our lives are often disastrous and heart-breaking, our minds flit back and forth, and sometimes we are col [...]

    5. "Most of us have only one story to tell. I don’t mean that only one thing happens to us in our lives: there are countless events, which we turn into countless stories. But there’s only one that matters, only one finally worth telling. This is mine."In The Only Story, Barnes revisits a subject he explored in The Sense of an Ending: the unreliable narrator, an older man looking back on his youth and trying to make sense of it. In the former book, we as readers worked out the inconsistency in t [...]

    6. In 1963, a 19 year old student starts an affair with a 48 year old woman: a relationship that starts easily, which he believes is loveThis is very easy to read with some gentle humour in the first half, as well as indicators of the cruelty of lovers (Susan's nickname for her mild, dull husband is Mr Elephant Pants because of his vast grey trousers!), but ultimately I found it more telling for the social history, the sexual mores and expectations of the 1960s than especially insightful about love [...]

    7. Most of us have only one story to tell. I don’t mean that only one thing happens to us in our lives: there are countless events, which we turn into countless stories. But there’s only one that matters, only one finally worth telling. This is mine.Everyone has their love story. Everyone. It may have been a fiasco, it may have fizzled out, it may never even have got going, it may have been all in the mind, that doesn’t make it any less real. Sometimes, it makes it more real. Sometimes, you s [...]

    8. ( 2.5 probably but I feel guilted into a 3 )So. it pains me a little to write this review because I really don't like to be so far outside of popular opinion on a book. It is perhaps a shame this is my first Julian Barnes novel as I know he is a much beloved author and his The Sense of an Ending is a popular Booker winner. There is no doubt you are in capable writerly hands when picking up this novel. My reactions to this are not indictments about the writing itself, which is mostly magnificent. [...]

    9. “Would you rather love the more, and suffer the more; or love the less, and suffer less? That is, I think, finally, the only real question.”Book critics have been busy comparing The Only Story, Julian Barnes' latest tale of suburban goings-on, with his 2011 Man Booker Prize-winning, The Sense of an Ending. While it's true both novels are narrated by melancholic older men looking back on their lives, the protagonists recollect their pasts in different ways. The defining disparity between the [...]

    10. We were together– under the same roof, that is– for ten or more years. Afterwards, I continued to see her regularly. In later years, less often. When she died, a few years ago, I acknowledged that the most vital part of my life had finally come to a close. I shall always think of her well, I promised myself. And this is how I would remember it all, if I could. But I can’t.Julian Barnes’ latest novel, The Only Story tells the story of the narrator, Paul’s, one true love, through his mem [...]

    11. It never ceases to amaze me how absolutely effortless Barnes’s writing is – as if the story was always there, begging to be told, as if there were two people who wanted to document their lives and mark their presence in the universe. That’s the reason the stories exist, isn’t? To mark our presence, our pain and our hopes.The Only Story is more than a story of "a long-haired student, 19" who fell in love with "a housewife, 48" and didn't make it into a proper rumpy-pumpy scandal, it is a [...]

    12. I read this straight off the back of readingA Sense of An Ending. There are similarities; of setting- English Home Counties; of writing style- Barnes eases the reader into an engagement with the dominant (male) character. We travel from childhood to maturity with both Paul and Tony. Both are sad books.My first reaction on reading The Only Story was that it could be spliced into A Sense of An Ending, and that one longer, rather wistful and melancholic reflection on life, would be the result.Both [...]

    13. Perhaps many of us DO have only one story in our life that matters. Perhaps we have several. But relegating The Only Story to a love story between a boy barely out of his teens and a woman firmly ensconced in middle age would be serving this novel short.In truth, the book is about memory and how our stories become paradoxically, more nuanced and yet more distance as we age. Julian Barnes writes, “But nowadays, the raucousness of the first person within him was stilled. It was as if he viewed, [...]

    14. Een mogelijke omschrijving van een steengoede auteur is dat er een bedrieglijke nonchalance, een losjes uit de pols, een valse vadsigheid optreedt. Ik zie tijdens het lezen al te vaak de schrijver van het boek in mijn gedachten aan een bureau zitten -met structuren en pistes in het hoofd mijmerend over de juiste keuzes. Daar is dus bij Barnes geen sprake van. Deze combinatie van vlotheid én nauwkeurigheid is enkel de grootsten gegeven. Het ik-jij-hij vertelperspectief -vaak nutteloze spielerei- [...]

    15. I don’t want to think too hard about what my love of melancholic older male narrators reflecting on their lives and loves says about me but this is a fine example of the trope. I struggled with the age difference between the lovers just as I did with THE LESSER BOHEMIANS. But Barnes is a beautiful observer of life, memory and love and he’s yet to write a book that doesn’t move me.

    16. An old man, Paul, is remembering his first love: at 19 he starts a relationship with Susan, a woman of 48. I liked though, that the novel didn't dwell on the age difference, but what happens to a couple when the force of earlier relationships (or 'pre-history') affects the current one. The structure follows how memories come, staccato, jumping and sometimes repeating. It is very introspective, with not a huge amount of action, with the older Paul musing on love, what he could have done different [...]

    17. I inhaled this one evening and ugh just loved the whole thing. It’s only my second ever Barnes, and now I want to read all the Julian Barnes there is. I felt like that after my first Barnes experience, and this has just cemented it.My first novel of his was the epic The Sense of an Ending, and in some ways, this really reminded me of that, which explains why I was similarly sucked right in. Julian Barnes seems like a wise, clear-eyed observer of life, and I wonder if he ponders the things his [...]

    18. Julian Barnes writes beautifully and in this regard, The Only Story does not disappoint. It was difficult to put the book down at first, but as the book moved on I lost some interest. It felt like a story I have read before and once we started rolling down that hill, there were no unexpected turns. I am still a big fan of his, but this book felt less extraordinary than the others to me.

    19. An old man reminisces about the great love affair of his life, his affair with a woman 30 years older than himself whom he met and ran away with when he was just 19 and she 48, married and with two daughters older than Paul himself. It was never going to turn out well, and of course it doesn’t. But for Paul it remains “the only story” and he shares it with the reader in exhaustive and ultimately repetitious and tedious detail. This is a solipsistic novel that assumes the reader is as inter [...]

    20. The bitter-sweet reminiscences of a transgressive love affair also create an evocative depiction of 1960’s Home County middle-class society, with its repressive sexual mores and restrictive expectations. As Paul recollects his past life, the immediacy and intimacy of the account varies as the narrative voice shifts between first, second and third person. Paul scrupulously questions the accuracy of his memory, and muses on the 'familiar question' of its nature, recognising that memory is unreli [...]

    21. The back of the book has the words, " It is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all". These words are crossed out and then written again. These words by themselves almost manage to capture the whole essence of the book.If you have read The Sense of an Ending you will immediately notice the similarities between the two books. Barnes once again explores the process of our memories, especially how we recall them, what we forget, remember, etc. Essentially he makes us realise h [...]

    22. Paul, now in his later years, is looking back on his first love, or, as he calls it, 'The Only Story'. As a 19 year old, he embarked on a relationship with Susan, a 48 year old married lady who he met at the local village tennis club. The book follows them through their bittersweet journey as Paul reminisces and attempts to examine and make sense of the complexities of love. Characterised with real depth and feeling, I was swept along with Paul's recollections in this poignant tale and enjoyed B [...]

    23. "Perhaps love could never be captured in a definition; it could only ever be captured in a story."Em costa posar 5 estrelles, però és que aquesta novel·la s'ho mereix. És rodona. Julian Barnes té una capacitat narrativa extraordinària. El narrador és intel·ligent, divertit, coherent en la seva incoherència, gens condescendent. És una novel·la sobre l'Amor, en majúscula; sobre el que és i no és. O el que sembla ser o no ser. Sense donar lliçons. Sense creure's amb la capacitat de t [...]

    24. Set in nineteen-fifties suburbia, a world that Julian Barnes evokes with considerable solidity, this is the story of Paul, a nineteen year old student, who falls head over heels for Susan, a fifty-eight year old housewife. But this is not one of those stories about an older woman introducing a younger man to sex. It is a love story. The sex is entirely incidental. The relationship quickly becomes all-consuming and is eventually the source of a permanent rift between Paul and his parents. In time [...]

    25. I’ve long had a problem with love. I don’t understand expressions like, “We two are one,” because even though I’ve been married for over thirty years (albeit to three separate women) I’ve never lost sight of who I am, not completely. I expected to the first time and so when my wife, whom I’m sure I loved every bit as much as Paul in Barnes’s novel clearly loves Susan, when my wife one day out of the blue informed me she no longer wanted to be with me I was rightly confused becaus [...]

    26. I thought The Only Story was excellent in some parts but that it lost its way a little. It is, of course, beautifully written throughout with some very poignant observations but struggled to carry the story through to its end.The story begins with a nineteen-year-old Paul in the mid-1960s in a "respectable" Surrey village, who falls for and eventually begins an affair with an older, married woman whom he meets at the Tennis Club. Julian Barnes uses this as a device to reflect on youth and its la [...]

    27. I really enjoyed this book, as a fan of Julian Barnes's work. It reminded me quite a bit of his Booker Prize winning The Sense Of An Ending, in that it features an old man looking back to his youth. In the early 1960s, when Paul was 19 years old, he began an affair with Susan, a 48-year-old married woman who he met at the tennis club, whilst back in the small village where his parents lived, during his holidays from university. This unusual love affair became 'the only story' of his life, and he [...]

    28. Julian Barnes's latest novel sets out its agenda from its very first paragraph:Would you rather love the more, and suffer the more; or love the less, and suffer the less? That is, I think, finally, the only real question.And then, soon after we are told:Most of us have only one story to tell. I don't mean that only one thing happens to us in our lives But there's only one that matters, only one finally worth telling. This is mine.But here's the first problem. If this is your only story, then it' [...]

    29. One of the things I love about Barnes is his ability to play with memory, perspective and truth. The Only Story begins with the promise of just such a story. An unfulfilled man looking back on the main love of his life, what happened, how he felt and how it may have appeared to other people,"do all these retellings bring you closer to the truth of what happened, or move you further away?"Barnes has told Paul's story in three acts. The first and last were what I expected from him, but the middle [...]

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